Buat Baik Berpada-pada,....
There's something about that peribahasa "buat baik berpada-pada, buat jahat jangan sekali."
And I learnt that hard lesson in the last 2 nights, or so.
That you should choose the people you're kind to. That you shouldn't expect them to reciprocate, much less appreciate, your kindness.
That not everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt. No matter how human they look, no matter how vulnerable their current position, no matter how traumatic their past.
That no matter how hard the situation you're going through, that does not preclude you from being polite and treating guests like guests - especially when they've made the effort to be there, in your moment of need.
That sometimes, the softness they wear as a veneer to the world, is matched by the ruthlessness and insensitivity of their behaviour, to others.
That no price is too big to pay - you can wreck your family and you can wreck the family of others. As long as they have their way in life - everything has a justification.
That if it looks like a corpse and it stinks and rots like a corpse,...it is a corpse.
Think twice. Trust less. And don't start piling your faith in the goodness of people, until you see ample evidence of it. Even then, don't put your trust in them, wholly.
A lot of us can't choose our past nor our families and their circumstances. But we do make choices for our present and our future. Tragedy or emotional difficulties should never be used as an excuse to fail, or screw up in life or to make bad decisions. To fail yourself, your family or to deny or abandon what's right, in the sometimes, selfish pursuit of happiness.
The point of being "blessed" with a traumatic past, is to learn from it be stronger and be better people than those who have let you down - not worst people.
We have been given the capacity and the option to decide - even between right and wrong. No one is entirely a prisoner of their past, if they choose not to be. We are not slaves of things, that came before us.
And believe in karma. As the Alicia Keys song "Karma" goes - "What goes around, comes around, what goes up, must come down,...". I believe in that - no one escapes karma.
In the end, the outcome or consequence of our life, is the benefit or the undoing, of our actions and decisions.
No one should cry over milk that they've spilt, deliberately.
And I learnt that hard lesson in the last 2 nights, or so.
That you should choose the people you're kind to. That you shouldn't expect them to reciprocate, much less appreciate, your kindness.
That not everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt. No matter how human they look, no matter how vulnerable their current position, no matter how traumatic their past.
That no matter how hard the situation you're going through, that does not preclude you from being polite and treating guests like guests - especially when they've made the effort to be there, in your moment of need.
That sometimes, the softness they wear as a veneer to the world, is matched by the ruthlessness and insensitivity of their behaviour, to others.
That no price is too big to pay - you can wreck your family and you can wreck the family of others. As long as they have their way in life - everything has a justification.
That if it looks like a corpse and it stinks and rots like a corpse,...it is a corpse.
Think twice. Trust less. And don't start piling your faith in the goodness of people, until you see ample evidence of it. Even then, don't put your trust in them, wholly.
A lot of us can't choose our past nor our families and their circumstances. But we do make choices for our present and our future. Tragedy or emotional difficulties should never be used as an excuse to fail, or screw up in life or to make bad decisions. To fail yourself, your family or to deny or abandon what's right, in the sometimes, selfish pursuit of happiness.
The point of being "blessed" with a traumatic past, is to learn from it be stronger and be better people than those who have let you down - not worst people.
We have been given the capacity and the option to decide - even between right and wrong. No one is entirely a prisoner of their past, if they choose not to be. We are not slaves of things, that came before us.
And believe in karma. As the Alicia Keys song "Karma" goes - "What goes around, comes around, what goes up, must come down,...". I believe in that - no one escapes karma.
In the end, the outcome or consequence of our life, is the benefit or the undoing, of our actions and decisions.
No one should cry over milk that they've spilt, deliberately.
posted by Stingrayz | 12:04 PM
4 Comments:
Methinks you need something to cheer you up MrStingRay.
Coffee? I promise to wear my funny hat!
Often it takes great emotional and spiritual strength to break away from the past, though...and it is not always easy to strike a balance between trust and wariness for one always needs a good measure of both in life.
Good lessons, if not a bit dark, if I may say so.
Yes, am seconding MzMin!
i have this problem of expecting reciprocation in kind, especially for those you honestly and sincerely want to help. the thing is, u often times get rewarded with either cruelty or ignorance. it's a slap in the face. i've learned my lesson now, and call me cruel, but it ain't worth it being extra or overly nice to people, because in the end, the alley's wide open for a stab in the back....
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