Editing/The Magic of The House
While watching "Everybody Loves Raymond" last night, I was struck by one of the points that Ray Romano made, at his brother's wedding.
He was talking about editing. In particular, the editing of one's memories.
Sometimes, unpleasant things or rifts happen in the past, between family members, friends or people who love or care for each other. It could lead to painful memories and emotional scars, that resonates forever in you. It could lead you to distancing from each other, for the sake of self-preservation. Or sometimes, the preservation of the ties itself.
But editing involves cutting out the memories of the bad parts and to keep the good parts.
Because it's the good parts that you build your relationships on. It's the good parts that strengthens your bond. And makes you value what you have.
Of course, it can't be done in all cases. Some people are beyond redemption, even if they're family.
But I'm quite sure that if we pause for a while, we'll know at least 1 or 2 people, where we haven't done enough editing on. And some, which we repeatedly do more editing than is needed - where even the bad things, is seen in a good light - and we start living in a world of self-imposed fiction.
But yes, for most reasonable things - keep the good parts. And cherish them - for they are worth their weight in gold.
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Mrs Ranee (not her real name) is the wife of the purchaser of my family home. And when she last spoke to me, it was with much elation and gratitude.
You see, the family home that us siblings sold (after my Mom's passing) last year, was bought by an Indian family. And there was a reason, why they specifically chose our family home.
Their feng shui master told them to buy our family home. For the sake of their child's health.
You see, Karan (not his real name) is Mrs. Ranee's 8-year old son, who suffers from a rare muscle dystrophy and is unable to walk. He's been receiving treatment from the feng shui master (let's call him Master Lee) for the last 2 years (in Master Lee's home, which is nearby to our family home) and Master Lee claimed that Karan will only recover if they found a house with good feng shui and airflow.
The first time, Master Lee stepped into our home, he gave his thumbs up on the feng shui feel of the family home. I'm not a great believer but I went along with it - it doesn't hurt if it helps the sale of the family home.
Although being the great sceptic that I am in the veracity of "traditional" treatments, I felt that Mrs. Ranee's family, were putting in great financial investments (and decisions) at the mere order of their feng shui master.
But Mrs. Ranee believed in the effectiveness of Master Lee's treatment and advice and its effect on Karan's health. And heaven hath nothing more determined than the power of a mother's belief and love,...
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On my last visit to the family home, to settle the issues of the transfer of property - Mrs. Ranee thanked me again, while showing me the renovations they've done to our former family home.
The interior renovations were lavish, but tastefully done. Strangely enough, they kept some parts of the old home intact - like the plaster ceiling which had my mother's designs on it - they felt that it was beautiful and that it deserved to be preserved.
I was touched at that gesture - Mum would have been pleased. :)
Apparently, little Karan is inhabiting my old room. According to Master Lee, it has the best feng shui in the whole house - and that it will help him recover from his affliction. I smiled at the thought that I may have grown up in a "lucky" room. :)
And in the last 2 months - Karan has been performing miracles, health-wise. He's now able to walk on his own. Albeit imperfectly, but still, he hasn't walked on his own since he was 3 years old!
Mrs. Ranee had tears of joy, as she spoke to me about Karan. She felt wholly indebted
to our family, for choosing to sell our family home to them. And at a fairly reasonable price, too.
Me? I was just glad that Karan was getting better and had a chance to live as a normal boy. And if they earnestly believed that his recovery has something to do with the home they bought (and they've got Karan's concrete recovery to prove it), who am I to argue with them? God works in mysterious ways, I guess. I feel happy, if we've contributed in some way, to the joy that this young family would feel.
But Mum would have been pleased, I felt. We could not have chosen better or more grateful purchasers, than the ones we sold the family home to.
And the act of selling the family home, could not have been more meaningful and beneficial than what it is, now.
Amin!
He was talking about editing. In particular, the editing of one's memories.
Sometimes, unpleasant things or rifts happen in the past, between family members, friends or people who love or care for each other. It could lead to painful memories and emotional scars, that resonates forever in you. It could lead you to distancing from each other, for the sake of self-preservation. Or sometimes, the preservation of the ties itself.
But editing involves cutting out the memories of the bad parts and to keep the good parts.
Because it's the good parts that you build your relationships on. It's the good parts that strengthens your bond. And makes you value what you have.
Of course, it can't be done in all cases. Some people are beyond redemption, even if they're family.
But I'm quite sure that if we pause for a while, we'll know at least 1 or 2 people, where we haven't done enough editing on. And some, which we repeatedly do more editing than is needed - where even the bad things, is seen in a good light - and we start living in a world of self-imposed fiction.
But yes, for most reasonable things - keep the good parts. And cherish them - for they are worth their weight in gold.
*************************************************************
Mrs Ranee (not her real name) is the wife of the purchaser of my family home. And when she last spoke to me, it was with much elation and gratitude.
You see, the family home that us siblings sold (after my Mom's passing) last year, was bought by an Indian family. And there was a reason, why they specifically chose our family home.
Their feng shui master told them to buy our family home. For the sake of their child's health.
You see, Karan (not his real name) is Mrs. Ranee's 8-year old son, who suffers from a rare muscle dystrophy and is unable to walk. He's been receiving treatment from the feng shui master (let's call him Master Lee) for the last 2 years (in Master Lee's home, which is nearby to our family home) and Master Lee claimed that Karan will only recover if they found a house with good feng shui and airflow.
The first time, Master Lee stepped into our home, he gave his thumbs up on the feng shui feel of the family home. I'm not a great believer but I went along with it - it doesn't hurt if it helps the sale of the family home.
Although being the great sceptic that I am in the veracity of "traditional" treatments, I felt that Mrs. Ranee's family, were putting in great financial investments (and decisions) at the mere order of their feng shui master.
But Mrs. Ranee believed in the effectiveness of Master Lee's treatment and advice and its effect on Karan's health. And heaven hath nothing more determined than the power of a mother's belief and love,...
****************************************************************
On my last visit to the family home, to settle the issues of the transfer of property - Mrs. Ranee thanked me again, while showing me the renovations they've done to our former family home.
The interior renovations were lavish, but tastefully done. Strangely enough, they kept some parts of the old home intact - like the plaster ceiling which had my mother's designs on it - they felt that it was beautiful and that it deserved to be preserved.
I was touched at that gesture - Mum would have been pleased. :)
Apparently, little Karan is inhabiting my old room. According to Master Lee, it has the best feng shui in the whole house - and that it will help him recover from his affliction. I smiled at the thought that I may have grown up in a "lucky" room. :)
And in the last 2 months - Karan has been performing miracles, health-wise. He's now able to walk on his own. Albeit imperfectly, but still, he hasn't walked on his own since he was 3 years old!
Mrs. Ranee had tears of joy, as she spoke to me about Karan. She felt wholly indebted
to our family, for choosing to sell our family home to them. And at a fairly reasonable price, too.
Me? I was just glad that Karan was getting better and had a chance to live as a normal boy. And if they earnestly believed that his recovery has something to do with the home they bought (and they've got Karan's concrete recovery to prove it), who am I to argue with them? God works in mysterious ways, I guess. I feel happy, if we've contributed in some way, to the joy that this young family would feel.
But Mum would have been pleased, I felt. We could not have chosen better or more grateful purchasers, than the ones we sold the family home to.
And the act of selling the family home, could not have been more meaningful and beneficial than what it is, now.
Amin!
posted by Stingrayz | 8:05 AM
13 Comments:
Ahah!
Finally found you!
So glad the house went to a really appreciative family. Hope Mrs Ranee and Karan enjoy many more wonderful years.
Your personal 'good feng shui' may come later in life, who knows?
Dian:
Have we met? ;)
Welcome to the blog, little sister. :)
Yes, you've found me - but let's keep that our little secret, yes?
It's been a long time. Hope your hubby, child and the rest of the clan, are doing fine.
As for my personal good "feng shui" - I think I've probably benefited from it, already. There are very few things that I'd change about my past - I've very few major regrets in life.
But yes, if the good "feng shui" has been working at all, let there be more of it.
I mean, I have to be the next Dato' K, right? ;)
Nonikins:
It's going badly. My misai tends to fashion itself more like a cat's whiskers, than Dato' K. ;)
Okay, we keep it hush-hush. Your blog template gave it away...
So, which young starlet are you hoping to snare with your Dato' K persona and misai? Anyone you've acted with recently?
Dian:
Ask me again in 15 year's time. Then, I'll be Dato' K's age (and hopefully, stature too) ;)
Btw, are you saying that my blog template looks old? :)
okeh tell me, who's this Feng Shui master la?
Maine:
Why? Would you like your house to be painted light green, too? ;)
He lives in Regent's Ville and his house is along the same stretch as my old family house.
That's also another reason why they bought our family house - because it's close by enough for their son, to get his daily treatment from the feng shui master/healer.
Regent's Ville? U ni duduk negeri mana ni? Enlighten me please. The Feng Shui master tu Joey Yap ke?
Sign,
A Kelate in TTDI (tempat tak ada dan tak payah pakai Feng Shui master).
Allah, that sounds so 'riak'. Sorry.
Maine:
Sabaq, dik. Most things in my blog are under pseudonyms.
Regent's Ville is one of them. :) It's somewhere in Selangor, dear.
And no, it's not Joey Yap. And it's not that people in Regent's Ville use feng shui masters - they don't.
Mrs. Ranee's family is using one, because their son is ill and they believe their son is getting better, due to it.
And if the kid seems to be recovering, who are we to judge, right?
Whatever the method, the fruit of every human effort, is the will of God. That's what I believe.
For them their religion and for us, ours. Live and let live.
Stingray, of course everything's under pseudonyms. I thought, maybe, you could still inform me using our dialect's as a code :P
That day I only read two of your entries; Clarity ... and Editing...
I read two more entries recently and went.. "Am I reading myself here???"
Bet everyone else thought the same way.
Feng Shui is certainly not a religion and it doesn't take any practitioners to worship any specific God to be able to obtain what they want in object and property arrangements.
It is a specialised knowledge just like geography but it also combines spiritual and creative matters.
I include out-of-the-box subject speakers in my ever boring technology events [with regards to my job]. That's why I asked for his name.
Shall put my curiosity to rest.
Maine:
Understood, dear. And I was applying the term "religion" loosely, here - as a system or method of belief. Not necessarily organized religion.
If you want the Feng Shui master's name - I'll get it for you, from Mrs. Ranee. We were introduced once, but I didn't bother remembering his name.
Will get back to you, on that one.
As for Regent's Ville - I'll give you a clue - he once called himself the happiest Prime Minister in the world.
Stingray,
Ooohh, you live in a 'Kampung' right?
It's ok dear. I shouldn't menyebok in the first place :)
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