Mimpi Pari

"The two hardest tests on the spiritual road are the patience to wait for the right moment and the courage not to be disappointed with what we encounter"

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Thursday, October 26, 2006

Basic Instinct

These are just some thoughts that are running through my mind, right now.

No particular structure or coherence yet - just in random order, floating around in wonderment. And it goes something like this:


We DO know when something fits. And when something does not.

We can't explain why some people are crazy about us and where every single thing we do seems to lift their already high regard for us.

We can't explain why we might feel the same for others.

We know what we want. We know what we don't want. We know how far we'd be willing to strive for something that we know is worth it. And we also when we're not willing to.

We should know what we can change - and what we can't. And if we don't know, then we should learn over time. For it's a very important lesson in relationships.

Being limitless in your mind, does not mean that you can continue to ignore the wall in front of you, when the only tool you have to break it, is your head. Accept your limitations, when God has ordained it.

And give up on the striving, once you know that things don't FIT. No matter how romantic, attractive and appealing the notion seems to you.

Move on and bring the lessons with you. There should be one. It should make you know yourself better, if not your knowledge of the other person. Anything less than that, is pure foolhardyness.

Happiness is that intersection between what you love, what is within your reach, what you're willing to strive for and a little bit of what fits and responds naturally to you - even without your effort.

And if you accept this - you will know that no one missed opportunity can be the meaning of life, to you. Perhaps, one opportunity can fill this spot at each period of our lives - but no single missed opportunity holds the sole key to our happiness.

We survive and we pick ourselves up. And we move on to the next opportunity. There's nothing eternally permanent, romantic or fatalistic in this notion.

Deep down inside - human beings are pragmatic creatures and our instinct to survive, overrides any desire that we may have.

Breaking it down to that level - we seem colder and animalistic than we really feel, perhaps. But there are some out there, who are truer to the most basic of human nature, than others.

And they're well ahead of the curve in life's game.

Know yourself and how far you should go. Know your limitations on some things which involves relationships and feelings. Understand the value of respect and balance. And learn to recognize what fits and what doesn't - earlier on in the game. It's part of the process of maturing.

Ikut hati mati, ikut rasa binasa. How true. Life requires a much higher intelligence of us (and perhaps, selfishness) to survive it.